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----- Original Message -----=20
From: Cynthia Ralls=20
To: countrysidec@mail.aces.uiuc.edu=20
Sent: Wednesday, April 18, 2001 6:50 AM
Subject: Re: Gifted Kid Problems


Dear Sir or Madam:

I am in dire need of assistance with my 11 year old son! I am the single =
parent of 4 children, 3 of whom are "gifted" and the youngest already =
exhibits characteristics of being also but has yet to be "identified" as =
gifted.=20

I am quite concerned about the labeling process currently employed by =
educational systems as a whole! There seems to be a tendency to want to =
put all children in categories and as a literacy advocate myself, I know =
for as many people there are , there are equally as many individual =
learning styles.=20

All of my kids have been put into these boxes that are not only stifling =
but, in the instance of the 11 year old son, has really fostered a =
negative attitude towards learning and school in general. I am at my =
wits end to find him the help and tools he needs to succeed!

In elementary school he had been "identified" as Academically Talented =
(gifted), yet due to the absence of a positive male role model I =
forewent the AT classes in 4th and 5th grade in order that he be able to =
build his self-esteem in the classroom of this wonderful man, Hans =
Pligge. My son did quite well and Mr., P (as we call him) adapted a more =
challenging curriculum especially for my son.=20

Unfortunately, upon entering the sixth grade (junior high) this year, my =
son has had real difficulty in assimilating to his new environment, the =
huge volume of work in his 3 AT classes and the school has experienced  =
enormous overpopulation, understaffing and general chaos due to massive =
growth in our community. While at the end of the first quarter he had an =
A/B report, at the end of the 3rd quarter we had struggled hard to =
obtain 3 D's, 2 C's and 2 B's.

All though he is not going to fail the sixth grade, the whole =
experience: detentions, boosters. Saturday school, in school suspension, =
etc., has left him pretty damaged in self-esteem and motivation. And, =
the school has suggested that he be removed from the AT program period. =
And, they now  suggest that he be placed in a study skills program next =
year as well as receive intervention services for his anger/stress =
management issues that he is currently seeing a child psychologist for.=20

I have entertained thoughts of home schooling, private schooling, =
distance learning, practicing Tough Love, and just about every thing in =
order to meet my son's needs.=20

As I mentioned, this is not "my first rodeo" with gifted programs. In =
fact, my now 22 year old daughter read on a 3rd grade level in first and =
has been basically 2 years ahead of her peers academically, yet, these  =
"gifted" kids have issues which when really examined can and should be =
viewed as learning disabilities! They are emotionally immature although =
because they are extremely intelligent and rebellious they think they =
are adults! Both my oldest daughter and my son refused to do their work, =
and consequently, bottomed out and shut down emotionally and =
academically.=20

I grow increasingly tired with the "educators" who also refuse to get =
EDUCATED about these "special" children!
I have run across some research studies regarding these very issues on =
line and offered them to the school to no avail! It is really =
frustrating and disappointing to me because my son has the potential to =
excel yet, he needs a mentor to foster the self-esteem and motivation =
necessary to his success!

There is an extension office near us in Yorkville, I wondered if there =
are any peer mentoring programs (high school students possibly) or other =
educational opportunities available? We need help and if anyone were =
interested in studying gifted kids, I have a slew of them!

My son has scored off the scale on all standardized achievement tests =
and recently zoomed through testing at Sylvan's Learning Center and was =
told that he scored the highest in the shortest length of time! It seems =
disgraceful to me that a child with his potential can not succeed within =
the public school system!

Please, any insight you could offer would be greatly appreciated!

Thank you for your time and patience with this lengthy correspondence. I =
look forward to your response!

Sincerely,

Cynthia Ralls
97 Fernwood Road
Montgomery, Illinois 60538
630-906-0588
csralls@juno.com



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<DIV style=3D"FONT: 10pt arial">----- Original Message -----=20
<DIV style=3D"BACKGROUND: #e4e4e4; font-color: black"><B>From:</B> <A=20
href=3D"mailto:csralls@earthlink.net" =
title=3Dcsralls@earthlink.net>Cynthia=20
Ralls</A> </DIV>
<DIV><B>To:</B> <A href=3D"mailto:countrysidec@mail.aces.uiuc.edu"=20
title=3Dcountrysidec@mail.aces.uiuc.edu>countrysidec@mail.aces.uiuc.edu</=
A> </DIV>
<DIV><B>Sent:</B> Wednesday, April 18, 2001 6:50 AM</DIV>
<DIV><B>Subject:</B> Re: Gifted Kid Problems</DIV></DIV>
<DIV><BR></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>Dear Sir or Madam:</FONT></DIV>
<DIV>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>I am in dire need of assistance with my =
11 year old=20
son! I am the single parent of 4 children, 3 of whom are "gifted" and =
the=20
youngest already exhibits characteristics of being also but has yet to =
be=20
"identified" as gifted. </FONT></DIV>
<DIV>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>I am quite concerned about the labeling =
process=20
currently employed by educational systems as a whole! There seems to be =
a=20
tendency to want to put all children in categories and as a literacy =
advocate=20
myself, I know for as many people there are , there are equally as many=20
individual learning styles. </FONT></DIV>
<DIV>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>All of my kids have been put into these =
boxes that=20
are not only stifling but, in the instance of the 11 year old son, has =
really=20
fostered a negative attitude towards learning and school in general. I =
am at my=20
wits end to find him the help and tools he needs to =
succeed!</FONT></DIV>
<DIV>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>In elementary school he had been =
"identified" as=20
Academically Talented (gifted), yet due to the absence of a positive =
male role=20
model I forewent the AT classes in 4th and 5th grade in order that he be =
able to=20
build his self-esteem in the classroom of this wonderful man, Hans =
Pligge. My=20
son did quite well and Mr., P (as we call him) adapted a more =
challenging=20
curriculum especially for my son. </FONT></DIV>
<DIV>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>Unfortunately, upon entering the sixth =
grade=20
(junior high) this year, my son has had real difficulty in assimilating =
to his=20
new environment, the huge volume of work in his 3 AT classes and the =
school has=20
experienced&nbsp; enormous overpopulation, understaffing and general =
chaos due=20
to massive growth in our community. While at the end of the first =
quarter he had=20
an A/B report, at the end of the 3rd quarter we had struggled hard to =
obtain 3=20
D's,&nbsp;2 C's and&nbsp;2 B's.</FONT></DIV>
<DIV>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>All though he is not going to fail the =
sixth grade,=20
the whole experience: detentions, boosters. Saturday school, in school=20
suspension, etc., has left him pretty damaged in self-esteem and =
motivation.=20
And, the school has suggested that he be removed from the AT program =
period.=20
And, they <U>now</U>&nbsp; suggest that he be placed in a study skills =
program=20
next year as well as receive intervention services for his anger/stress=20
management issues that he is currently seeing a child psychologist for.=20
</FONT></DIV>
<DIV>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>I have entertained thoughts of home =
schooling,=20
private schooling, distance learning, practicing Tough Love, and just =
about=20
every thing in order to meet my son's needs. </FONT></DIV>
<DIV>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>As I mentioned, this is not "my first =
rodeo" with=20
gifted programs. In fact, my now 22 year old daughter read on a 3rd =
grade level=20
in first and has been basically 2 years ahead of her peers academically, =
yet,=20
these&nbsp; "gifted" kids have issues which when really examined can and =
should=20
be viewed as learning disabilities! They are emotionally immature =
although=20
because they are extremely intelligent and rebellious they think they =
are=20
adults! Both my oldest daughter and my son refused to do their work, and =

consequently, bottomed out and shut down emotionally and academically.=20
</FONT></DIV>
<DIV>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>I grow increasingly tired with the =
"educators" who=20
also refuse to get EDUCATED about these "special" children!</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>I have run across some research studies =
regarding=20
these very issues on line and offered them to the school to no avail! It =
is=20
really frustrating and disappointing to me because my son has the =
potential to=20
excel yet, he needs a mentor to foster the self-esteem and motivation =
necessary=20
to his success!</FONT></DIV>
<DIV>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>There is an extension office near us in =
Yorkville,=20
I wondered if there are any peer mentoring programs (high school =
students=20
possibly) or other educational opportunities available? We need help and =
if=20
anyone were interested in studying gifted kids, I have a slew of=20
them!</FONT></DIV>
<DIV>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>My son has scored off the scale on all =
standardized=20
achievement tests and recently zoomed through testing at Sylvan's =
Learning=20
Center and was told that he scored the highest in the shortest length of =
time!=20
It seems disgraceful to me that a child with his potential can not =
succeed=20
within the public school system!</FONT></DIV>
<DIV>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>Please, any insight you could offer =
would be=20
greatly appreciated!</FONT></DIV>
<DIV>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>Thank you for your time and patience =
with this=20
lengthy correspondence. I look forward to your response!</FONT></DIV>
<DIV>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>Sincerely,</FONT></DIV>
<DIV>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>Cynthia Ralls</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>97 Fernwood Road</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>Montgomery, Illinois 60538</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>630-906-0588</FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2><A=20
href=3D"mailto:csralls@juno.com">csralls@juno.com</A></FONT></DIV>
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